Judy Taylor
Training your dog is about more than just teaching commands; it’s about understanding their very nature. But sadly, many conventional training approaches, along with the pharmaceuticals often pushed by veterinarians, completely overlook the dog’s instincts and emotional needs. Instead of falling into the trap of suppressing behaviors with drugs or harsh methods, you can take a gentler, more natural approach that respects your dog’s instincts and promotes true harmony in your home. Let’s dive into what you really need to know about your dog’s social nature and how to become the loving, natural leader they need.
Understanding Your Dog’s Instincts
Dogs are naturally social creatures with a strong instinct to belong. They aren’t just happy to be with humans—they crave that connection because, like wolves, they have an innate pack mentality. Unlike the cold, clinical view that many conventional practices take, we know that dogs aren’t simply animals to be controlled. They’re sensitive beings who understand social structures deeply. And when they become part of your family, they automatically seek out their place in the pack. This instinctual drive can make it incredibly easy for them to integrate into the family group—if we respect their needs.
However, when no one clearly assumes the leadership role, a dog may feel uneasy. The reality is that if you don’t step up, your dog will instinctively feel the need to take on the role of leader to maintain the pack’s strength and stability. Even a puppy will start to push boundaries to see if they need to be in charge because, instinctively, they know there must be a leader. This isn’t a sign of a “problem dog” as some conventional trainers might label it; it’s a natural behavior that can be addressed without resorting to harsh training tools or dangerous medications.
When you establish yourself as a calm, confident leader, your dog will naturally fall into place within the family pack, feeling safe and secure in their role. But this doesn’t mean using harsh tactics or intimidation. Instead, there are natural ways to show your leadership:
1. Gentle Physical Contact
Touch is a powerful tool in building trust and establishing a bond. Regularly grooming your dog, even if they seem resistant, shows that you care for them and that you are in charge of looking after their well-being. But there’s no need to force it or use medications to sedate a dog just to clip their nails, as some vets may suggest. Natural calming techniques—like soothing herbal oils or gentle massage—can help reduce anxiety and make grooming a more positive experience.
2. Set Clear Ground Rules with Compassion
Your dog needs boundaries to understand what’s acceptable, but punishing them harshly for behaviors that were once “cute” only confuses them. Conventional veterinary advice often jumps to medicating dogs for behavioral issues, which can have serious side effects like lethargy, aggression, or even long-term health problems. Natural alternatives like Bach flower remedies, essential oils, or simply providing consistent guidance can shape behaviors without resorting to drugs.
3. Consistency is Key—But It Doesn’t Have to Be Cruel
Being consistent doesn’t mean being strict and rigid to the point of creating fear. Avoid training methods that use harsh corrections or devices like shock collars, which can damage the bond of trust and cause anxiety. There are many natural methods for shaping behavior that don’t involve force, pain, or pharmaceuticals. Praise your dog when they get it right, and use gentle redirection instead of punishment.
The Bottom Line
You don’t need to fall into the trap of suppressing your dog’s natural behaviors with rigid training or risky drugs. By understanding your dog’s need for social structure and being the calm, consistent leader they crave, you can create a happier, healthier relationship. Reject the conventional notion that dogs are just pets to be controlled. Embrace a more natural approach that builds trust, respect, and a deeper bond with your furry family member.
